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Elizabeth Swider is the founder and owner of Care is There, a geriatric care management company in Charlottesville, Staunton, and Harrisonburg Virginia that supports long distance caregiving, aging in place, independent living, and supplemental services for assisted living. Elizabeth is a Certified Senior Advisor, Certified Aging in Place Specialist, and the chairwoman of the Aging in Place Business Round Table from Charlottesville Regional Chamber of Commerce.

7 responses to “Five Ways to Get your Elderly Parent to Listen to You”

  1. Therese Anello

    Do you have an specific articles regarding caregivers as siblings? My younger brother (age 57) has been under my care for the past 10 years. He lived with my deceased parents all his life. Although he has tried to live independently, his needs have changed and I am looking to place him in an assisted living facility.
    I have taken on the sole responsibility of taking care of all his needs – personal, financial, legal, etc. It is a huge burden and has taken its toll on my health. I am getting help, but I would love to know if there is even an organization out there that is geared to what I am dealing with on a daily basis. Thank you.

  2. Elizabeth Swider


    Thank you for all the care you have given your brother and continue to give! Lovely people like you earn a very special place in heaven, I like to say!

    Bravo also for seeking out the assistance that you need to make your life work as well as making his life work.

    I don’t have specific articles about siblings as caregivers, but your experience will be very valuable to share with others who are in your circumstance. You might try, which accepts questions from caregivers and emails them out to professionals for a response. That site also gives you easy access to other caregivers who might share your concerns.

    You might also contact a geriatric care manager in your area. We (Care is There) are located in the Charlottesville Virginia area and can support you if you live in our area. Otherwise you should be able to find one in your area.

    Also, call your local Area Agency on Aging and see what resources and support groups they offer.

    And, think about starting a support group for people caring for their siblings. I’ll bet you’d be a great leader.

    Lots of love to you, Therese, and let us know if there is anything else we can do to help.

    Elizabeth Swider

    1. Debrah

      Woot, I will cetrinaly put this to good use!

  3. Israel Garson

    Hi there, just wanted to mention, I loved this post. It was helpful. Keep on posting!

  4. Cassandra

    Great advice Elizabeth! After months and months of back and forth arguing with my stubborn dad, I found one method that finally proved useful. I brought a health monitoring system in his home, which allowed him to remain essentially independent, and safe at the same time. Now he doesn’t have to deal with a stranger in his own home and he never agreed to assisted living. This is also a great article i found that gives some suggestions on what to do if your elderly parents refuse help

  5. Elizabeth Swider

    Bravo Cassandra!

    It sounds like you were willing to listen to your dad and find a solution that worked for him as well as for you. A health monitoring system can be a great way to help keep a loved one safe without forcing them to move or accept outsiders.

    Other people won’t want to be monitored, but might blossom when befriended by the right person or welcomed into a community they can identify with. The key is to help them discover what is important to them, and protect that while also finding some peace of mind for yourself.

    Thanks for sharing your story, your success, and the article that helped you find your way.

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